Friday 8 March 2024

#On This Day 8 Mar 1840

 My 2x great uncle, Samuel Weston, was baptised in Etchingham Parish Church on 8 March 1840.  He was the eldest son of Samuel Weston and Sarah Newick.  He married Jane Pilbeam on Christmas Day 1863 and had 12 children.  They followed their sons who had emigrated to America and left Liverpool in 1893 , settling in Portsmouth, New Hamphire.  Samuel was a brewery labourer.  The brewery that he worked for was called Frank Jones & Eldridge Brewing Co. The brewery is no longer in business.  He worked in the Portsmouth Naval Dockyard during WW1.  He loved gardening until well into his 90s when failing eyesight caused him to give up.  He died in May 1939 and there were articles about in him local newspapers because of his age.

Samuel Weston and Jane Pilbeam

This photo shows him sitting down as he was rather short and Jane was tall!!





Thursday 11 January 2024

#On This Day 11 Jan 1765

My 4 times great grandmother, Mercy Hyland, was baptised on 11 Jan 1765 in Battle, Sussex.  She was the daughter of John and Mary Hyland (nee Forward).  She had a twin brother Henry.

She married George Kemp on 20 April 1786 in Mountfield, Sussex.  They had 4 girls and 4 boys:  Mary, Sarah, William, Richard, Hannah, George, Henry and Harriot.

In 1841 she is head of household at Beech Cottages, Sedlescombe, a widow, together with William nd Richard.

In 1851 she is living in Seddlescombe as head of house, age 84 and a pauper.  Living with her were her daughter Sarah, also a pauper, William an Ag Lab, Richard also an Ag Lab and a lodger.

She was buried, aged 92, on 8 Feb 1857 in Seddlescombe.  







Thursday 28 December 2023

Annie Elizabeth Gadd

 I thought I would test out how Bing AI would cope with generating a short biography about my great Grandmother, Annie Elizabeth Gadd.  I generated a fact report from my Family Historian software and gave Bing AI that to work on.  It needed a little bit of fine tuning but otherwise seemed to work quite well.

Annie Elizabeth Gadd was born on September 8, 1857, in Etchingham, Sussex, England, to George Gadd (1833-1909) and Eliza Keeley (c. 1834-1909)

She was baptized in Etchingham on November 7, 1857 and appeared in the census on April 7, 1861, in Etchingham, aged 3 and also in Etchingham in the census on April 2, 1871, aged 13 .

On December 8, 1877, she married Albert Weston in Etchingham when she was 20 years old and he was 23 years old . The marriage was witnessed by Philip Goodwin and Louisa Keely . They had seven children together: Albert, Henry, Grace, Frank, Minnie, Tilly, and Percy .

Annie appeared in the census on April 3, 1881, in Etchingham, aged 23 but by the time of the census on April 5, 1891, she was living in Salehurst, Sussex, England, aged 33 . She was still there in the census on March 31, 1901,  aged 43 but by the time of the census on April 2, 1911, she was living in Robertsbridge, Sussex, England, aged 54 . At the time of the last census available in public records, she was still in Robertsbridge, Sussex on June 19, 1921, aged 63 years and 9 months.

Annie died on September 3, 1932, in Robertsbridge, aged 74 and was buried on September 7, 1932, in Salehurst.

There has been previous posts about Annie here.

On This Day-7 November, 1857

Advent calendar day 8

Monday 25 December 2023

Advent Calendar Day 25 Christmas song

 

I think this Advent Calendar should have been called Going Full Circle because there have been many instances that I have highlighted this in it.  

The first day of the calendar was a particular memory and poem about Advent Calendars of my childhood.  Here we are on the last day and this post is about the words to a song we have on a Hawaiian CD that our daughter in law, Kari, gave us in 2009.


When this pops up in my memories on Facebook we go running to find the CD to play it.  The Christmas period has then been really welcomed in.  Mele Kalikimaka reminds of us being in Hawaii and trying to pronounce some of the words like "Kamehameha".  Their traditional  "Twelve Days of Christmas" (Hawaiian style) because of the different words used eg "my Tutu gave to me" is nothing to do with ballet as a Tutu is a grandparent and they don't have a pear tree but a papaya tree nor a partridge but a Mynah bird!!

This is the song on that CD though, that really tells the true meaning of Christmas to me and always has.

What would Christmas Be?

What would Christmas be without a tree?
The little girl asked innocently
Presents tied in pretty bows, don’t forget the mistletoe
Mommy, tell me what would Christmas be?

What would Christmas be without the toys
sent by Santa for all us good little boys
We take a few weeks off from school,
that makes Christmas really cool
Mommy, tell me what would Christmas be?

His mother smiled and drew him near,
holding back a little tear
And chuckled at the words her son had said
Christmas is the time of year
we celebrate the yuletide cheer
But honey don't forget why we were here

Christmas is the day Christ was born
Sent to earth to rescue the forlorn
A precious gift from God above,
He promised His eternal love
And sent to us His one and only Son

Now little ones you know it's true
how tenderly I care for you
A parents' loves is more than words can say
To know that God so loved us so,
He sent his son to earth below
Without Him, tell me what would Christmas be?

Composed by Nakani Choy
Executive Producers: NLP Music, Inc
Record Label: OneHawaii Music, LLC






Sunday 24 December 2023

Advent Calendar Day 24

 As a small child I was asked what my name was and I promptly announced Mary Christmas.  I suspect an instance of misunderstanding because Mary is my middle name and being greeted with "Merry Christmas"

When my father was an employee with the Woolwich Building Society I was able to go to Christmas parties but we had to drive to the Head Office in Woolwich for them.  I am not sure what the rest of the family did whilst I was there as it would have been too far to drive home and back again.  One year I had a lovely pink dress with lace tulle netting over the skirt and a blue bow round my waist.

Our Advent Calendars were like those posted about on the first day of this Advent Calendar.

We had net Christmas stockings and one was edged with red crepe paper and the other with orange crepe paper.  My sister and I would swap which one we had each Christmas.  Our stockings were left on the end of our beds and held small inexpensive items like notebooks, colouring pencils, sweets, a comic, flannel with a picture on it and a satsuma in the toe.  The satsumas came wrapped in a white paper wrap similar to tissue paper.  There was a picture logo on the wrappers.  There were many of these logos and we used to collect them to see how many different ones we could find.

Satsuma wrappers

We had fun making paper chains from packs of coloured strips of paper with gum on one end.  We made miles of these things, or so it seemed.  They were pinned all the way round the wooden picture rails or else pinned from the corners in to the centre light.  Mum kept the other decorations in a box to come year after year.  Many of them were coloured folded paper shapes like bells and stars.

Christmas bell
We also made these from old cards and we use to "pink" the edges with Mum's pinking shears

Christmas tree bauble


The Christmas tree had the same decorations year after year, being carefully put away and stored after Christmas.  I am sure there were some additions some years when we had made things at school.  I still have one or two of the ornaments and decorations used by Mum and Dad.

Our presents from Santa were always those in the Christmas stockings and the presents from our family and friends were put under the Christmas tree for opening after breakfast.  In the afternoon small gifts appeared "magically" hanging on the tree and these were opened in the middle of the afternoon.  We dutifully wrote thankyou notes to the present givers who we didn't see over the Christmas holiday.  

Mum would be busy cooking before Christmas as she made her own Christmas cake, mince pies, sausage rolls, cake and other goodies and of course she always cooked the Christmas dinner.  One of the cakes we always had on the tea table was a Tunis cake.  Some years we were given it and other years she bought it.  It was a plain madeira cake with chocolate covering the outside. I remember it with a Christmas band around the outside. On the top would be a decoration of buttercream and little marzipan fruits in a butter cream nest in the middle.  Our Christmas cake was always decorated with a snow scene so that we could put the little decorations of robins, holly, Father Christmas, a sleigh and some fir trees.

Tunis Cake

Dad used to roast chestnuts on the open fire we had in a courtier stove in the living...pre central heating days.  Needless to say there were spitting chestnuts and bits flying around.

When we married we bought a little Christmas tree and some decorations and this was our angel that sat on the top of the tree and still does every year.  I am making and giving a Christmas decoration each year to each grandchild so that when they leave home they will have 18 of Granny's Christmas decorations for their own tree but I will leave them to choose their own angel.

Our Angel


At the beginning of our marriage our parents only lived a few miles from each other so we would come up to stay with one set of parents but always visited the other parents the next day.  We carried on this tradition even after my parents moved away but once the children came along we found it too much to move between both of them as my parents had moved away from Sussex.  We then alternated Christmas holidays with one set of parents and Easter long week end with the other set.  It was so much easier for the children not to be stuck in the car for 5 hours between the sets of parents.

Both sets of parents always had Christmas dinner at 1pm and tea in the evening so we naturally carried this on ourselves,  Peter's parents did not have Christmas tree presents and had their crackers at lunchtime whereas I had always had them at teatime.  We carried on the tree presents and chose to have the crackers at teatime too.

In my late teens I would join in with others from our church and take the handbells round to accompany the carol singing that we did each Christmas.  We used to collect money but my memory fails me as to whether it was for the church or charity.  One year we sang outside Una Stubs front door and she came to open the door.

Peter's Dad had always got tickets for the Pantomime in Southport on Boxing Day on the years we went to them for Christmas and the children were small.  Some big names took part in those pantomimes, including Les Dennis one year.  We always went to the matinee so the language was appropriate for them.  There was always a very nosiy and enthusiastic audience.  We all thoroughly enjoyed ourselves.

As a young Mum I belonged to the WI in our village on the outskirts of Cirencester.  I was the youngest member there and always interested in the family.  One year we went to Gloucester for a carol concert and another year my friend, who was also a member and a childminder, decided to be part of the entertainment at the Christmas party and also did the same thing at the local playgroup.  We had a paint chimney made of a large three sided cardboard box and my friend dressed as Santa and was standing in the chimney and I dressed in my nightie (covering over my clothes!!) and clutching a huge teddy that my daughter had won in a competition to name the teddy...she chose Hamish.  Even more embarassing , but the whole point, was we sang the words to "When Santa got stuck up the Chimney"  We just sang up to the first Achoo, achoo achoo and then repeated them as an encore because there were more words but we didn't like them.   It was all much enjoyed by both the WI and the playgroup children.

When our children were old enough we would go to the Midnight Service where they and I were in the choir and Peter and I kept that up until Christmas 2020 when covid altered everyone's lives and meeting in churches and groups of people were not allowed.  Christmas 2020 was also the first year it had just been Peter and I together from Christmas but we had learned to zoom each other and so had a "zoomed" Christmas Day meet up.  We still do this with our son and his family on Christmas Day because usually we are with my daughter and family either in our house or in their house in Hertfordshire.

Our last tradition and our newest was a result of Covid too.  Our street has an Advent Trail for the children to see as they go to school we are allocated a day in the trail and have to display it in the window.  We have lots of lights outside and decorate the front downstairs windows with suitable themed decorations and our day number.  Some how the number of lights seem to grow each year as Peter is very enthusiastic about them and itches to get them outside on December 1st!!!





Saturday 23 December 2023

Advent Calendar Day 23

So glad Christmas's haven't been like this for the close family I have posted about in this Advent Calendar but it did affect one of my ancestors and others have been in workhouses too or before the existence of workhouses were regularly receiving help from the parish for food and clothing.

Christmas Day In the Workhouse

It is Christmas Day in the Workhouse,
And the cold bare walls are bright
With garlands of green and holly,
And the place is a pleasant sight:
For with clean-washed hands and faces,
In a long and hungry line
The paupers sit at the tables
For this is the hour they dine.

And the guardians and their ladies,
Although the wind is east,
Have come in their furs and wrappers,
To watch their charges feast;
To smile and be condescending,
Put pudding on pauper plates,
To be hosts at the workhouse banquet
They've paid for — with their rates.

Oh, the paupers are meek and lowly
With their "Thank'ee kindly, mum's"
So long as they fill their stomachs,
What matter it whence it comes?
But one of the old men mutters,
And pushes his plate aside:
"Great God!" he cries; "but it chokes me!
For this is the day she died."

The guardians gazed in horror,
The master's face went white;
"Did a pauper refuse the pudding?"
Could their ears believe aright?
Then the ladies clutched their husbands,
Thinking the man would die,
Struck by a bolt, or something,
By the outraged One on high.

But the pauper sat for a moment,
Then rose 'mid a silence grim,
For the others had ceased to chatter
And trembled in every limb.
He looked at the guardians' ladies,
Then, eyeing their lords, he said,
"I eat not the food of villains
Whose hands are foul and red:

"Whose victims cry for vengeance
From their dank, unhallowed graves."
"He's drunk!" said the workhouse master,
"Or else he's mad and raves."
"Not drunk or mad," cried the pauper,
"But only a hunted beast,
Who, torn by the hounds and mangled,
Declines the vulture's feast.

"Keep your hands off me, curse you!
Hear me right out to the end.
You come here to see how paupers
The season of Christmas spend.
You come here to watch us feeding,
As they watch the captured beast.
Hear why a penniless pauper
Spits on your paltry feast.

"Do you think I will take your bounty,
And let you smile and think
You're doing a noble action
With the parish's meat and drink?
Where's my wife, you traitors —
The poor old wife you slew?
Yes, by the God above us,
My Nance was killed by you!

"Last winter my wife lay dying,
Starved in a filthy den;
I had never been to the parish, —
I came to the parish then.
I swallowed my pride in coming,
For, ere the ruin came,
I held up my head as a trader,
And I bore a spotless name.

"I came to the parish, craving
Break for a starving wife,
Bread for the woman who'd loved me
Through fifty years of life;
And what do you think they told me,
Mocking my awful grief?
That 'the House' was open to us,
But they wouldn't give 'out relief.'

"I slunk to the filthy alley —
'Twas a cold, raw Christmas eve —
And the bakers' shops were open,
Tempting a man to thieve;
But I clenched my fists together,
Holding my head awry,
So I came to her empty-handed
And mournfully told her why.

"Then I told her 'the House' was open;
She had heard of the ways of that,
For her bloodless cheeks went crimson,
And up in her rags she sat,
Crying, 'Bide the Christmas here, John,
We've never had one apart;
I think I can bear the hunger, —
The other would break my heart.'

"All through that eve I watched her,
Holding her hand in mine,
Praying the Lord, and weeping,
Till my lips were salt as brine.
I asked her once if she hungered,
And as she answered 'No,'
The moon shone in at the window
Set in a wreath of snow.

"Then the room was bathed in glory,
And I saw in my darling's eyes
The far-away look of wonder
That comes when the spirit flies;
And her lips were parched and parted,
And her reason came and went,
For she raved of our home in Devon,
Where our happiest years were spent.

"And the accents long forgotten,
Came back to the tongue once more,
For she talked like the country lassie
I woo'd by the Devon shore.
Then she rose to her feet and trembled,
And fell on the rags and moaned,
And, 'Give me a crust — I'm famished —
For the love of God!' she groaned.

"I rushed from the room like a madman,
And flew to the workhouse gate,
Crying, 'Food for a dying woman!'
And the answer came, 'Too late.'
They drove me away with curses;
Then I fought with a dog in the street,
And tore from the mongrel's clutches
A crust he was trying to eat.

"Back, through the filthy by-lanes!
Back, through the trampled slush!
Up to the crazy garret,
Wrapped in an awful hush.
My heart sank down at the threshold,
And I paused with a sudden thrill,
For there in the silv'ry moonlight
My Nance lay, cold and still.

"Up to the blackened ceiling
The sunken eyes were cast —
I knew on those lips all bloodless
My name had been the last;
She'd called for her absent husband —
O God! had I but known! —
Had called in vain, and in anguish
Had died in that den — alone.

"Yes, there, in a land of plenty,
Lay a loving woman dead,
Cruelly starved and murdered
For a loaf of the parish bread.
At yonder gate, last Christmas,
I craved for a human life.
You, who would feast us paupers,
What of my murdered wife!

"There, get ye gone to your dinners;
Don't mind me in the least;
Think of the happy paupers
Eating your Christmas feast;
And when you recount their blessings
In your smug parochial way,
Say what you did for me, too,
Only last Christmas Day."

by George R. Sims

 

I certainly have ancestors who have been in the workhouse.  Henry Clark, my 3x great grandfather died in Ore Workhouse in 1908.  He had been an inmate for many years. His son, Richard Douch Clark, my 2x great grandfather, died in a workhouse in 1905 on the same day he was admitted.  He died of diabetes.  My 2x great grandmother Margaret Clark (nee Hoad) was in a workhouse near Ashford, Kent when their son Charles Douch Clarke was born.

Zachariah Weston, my 3x great grandfather, applied regularly for parish relief in Etchingham, Sussex between 1819-1822.